头七 ..

Just back from a more-than-810km-self-drive-trip to meet someone who has to be met.
就是为了要一起来负起忽略了十年左右的责任。
身是疲惫的；心是安慰的…

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The one who has to be met reminds me of someone (late Mrs Z). Maybe tonight, I shall talk a little bit about Mrs Z. I am not a good story-teller, but I shall try.

Mr and Mrs Z were married long ago. They were childless. I know the couple and communicated with them quite frequently back then. Mrs Z contracted some illnesses and she was already in rather serious condition when I knew her. Her physical conditions continue to deteriorate, but not her mental faculty. Especially during her last year, she gradually accepted her conditions and became stronger by committing herself to the teaching of her belief.

Anyway, one day she passed away.

It is a common belief that the soul of the departed will return on the first-7th-day. Although, Mr and Mrs Z had been married for many years and had been living pretty lovingly together all the while, Mr Z expressed he was scared on his wife’s first-7th-day. He requested his younger brother to stay with him for the night on his wife’s first-7th-day.

Little did he know, an interesting tale was about to unfold…

On that night, Mr Z got tired first. He returned to his room and tried to sleep while his younger brother stayed in the living room and continued to watch some television programmes.

在半梦半醒之间，Mr Z saw his wife appeared through the wall of his room and walked towards him and sat on the corner of the bed they used to share.

Mrs Z : 你还认得我吗？
Mr Z : 当然啦。你是我的老婆嘛。我为什么不认识？
(Accordingly to Mr Z, Mrs Z actually appeared very radiant and not sickly at all. She seemed much younger and livelier and certainly prettier.)

Mr Z : 你现在过得好吗？
Mrs Z : 我现在在天堂过得逍遥自在。你放心。

Mrs Z (now using her hand to stroke Mr Z’s head) : 我要跟你讲一些事情，你要听清楚。
Mr Z : 什么？

Mrs Z : 我曾经跟我的母亲借了马币 3000 元来买药，也跟 Mr C 借了新币600 元来看诊。过不久，你就会拿到我的保险的赔偿。你一定要帮我把钱先还给他们。你听懂吗？
Mr Z : 好 lor.
(Accordingly to Mr Z, he wasn’t aware that his wife had ever borrowed money for her medical care.)

Mrs Z : 还有，这一间屋子现在虽然是你一个人住，你就不要想把它给买了。其他两间房间你要出租是可以的，不过主人房你要留给自己住。好吗？
Mr Z : 好 lor.
(According to Mr Z, he was actually planning to sell away the flat and then stay with his sister.)

Mrs Z : 对了，房间外面的那一个人是谁啊？
Mr Z : 是我的弟弟，你不认识 meh ？

Mrs Z (only smiled and added) : 我想到厨房看看。

Upon saying that, she walked through the master-bedroom door, towards the kitchen. Not long after that, Mr Z was awakened by a pretty loud noise in the kitchen, as if something was dropped. He jumped out of his bed, opened the door and was thinking of walking towards the kitchen to take a look. His younger brother who was all the while watching television outside the living room was also disturbed by the noise in the kitchen. So the two brothers went to the kitchen to take a look, together.

They saw a frying spatula lying on the kitchen floor, as if being carelessly tossed.

Mr Z’s younger brother asked : 你刚才在房间跟谁讲话？
Mr Z : 跟我的老婆咯。

So, let you imagine how the brothers spend the remaining night hours…

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When Mr Z had received his wife’s insurance pay-out, he brought S$600 to see Mr C. Mr C wasn’t at home and so Mr Z passed the money to Mrs C.

Mrs C : 你给我这些钱做什么？
Mr Z : 我的老婆头七那天晚上跟我说… blah blah blah
(Mrs C wasn’t aware that Mr C actually lent Mrs Z that amount of money. A personal check with Mr C confirmed the truth…)

In the same way, when Mr Z returned the RM3000 to his mother-in-law, she was also surprised of the tale.

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想想：
- 是不是如果 Mrs Z 没有头七的显化，没有人会在提起那新币600元或那马币3000元？
- 是不是 Mrs Z 在生之年的病苦，必定有她过去的因。但是能虔心向真理，还了该还、受了该受，一样能逍遥自在。
- 是不是 ...

你能相信头七吧？
你能相信天地间有人、鬼、神、佛吧？
你能相信有地狱、天堂吧？

再想想...
百岁年后，我们的灵性将归何处？