他们说他们有傲慢

At times, I had noticed they weren’t in the best of mood. And that seriously affect the way they communicate with the others around them. Their tones will be different, their attitude clearly demonstrated and they just want things to be done the soonest and leave the scene just as fast.

One fine day (on different day for different people), they explained.

She said,
「我的心中有太多的傲慢。
我会很想把事情做好。
但我所做的每一件事都想要得到上司、
同事、朋友的注意、认同与肯定。
哪怕只是一句简单的赞许。
如果什么都没有表示的话，
我的意志会失落。
内心也可能会不满于有关的当事人。」

He said,
「我的好胜心也很强。
他人能做到的，
只要我用心的话，
我相信我也可以。
如果我不断努力，
但却一直只是看到别人总是锋芒毕露、独占鳌头，
而自己则是仍然默默无闻、一筹莫展，
我内心的滋味总是不会太好受。」

Another one was in tears when he mentioned,
「你知道吗？
其实我一直都很讨厌你。
我相信你也注意到我对你讲话的语气很不好。
我根本就是故意对你不理不睬。
你知道为什么吗？
我嫉妒你！
你的出现有一种威胁。
在那么短的时间，
你所学的就已经超越了我，
又一直得到上方的公开认同和继续提拔。
我内心真的很不好受。」

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他们说他们有傲慢、好胜、嫉妒之心，我们有吗？
不要否定的那么快。
多多少少，我相信每一个人都会有！
但它们不一定很明显、它们可以很隐微。
如果你想要有自觉的话，
你要在你的心灵深处在挖深一点。

他们都挖到了，
也愿意勇敢的来面对、
也愿意下定决心的来改。
他们的前程相信会更加坦然、更加自在、更加光明。
恭喜他们！

You still don’t believe you have a little tinge of that self-conceitedness, egoistism, pretentious, proudness, snobbishness, jeolousy ... ???
I may not have used the right words here, though.

Let’s see...
Remember the times (highly imaginative... 如有雷同纯属巧合) ,

- When we walk past a worker clearing the rubbish bins, we held our breath, use our fingers to pinch our nose, walked past him quickly with our head held high, not even want to look at his direction. Who is he to us? Do we know what a kind service he is providing us? Does he not deserve a more thankful nod from us, instead? What actually went through our heads when we tell little children, "You better study hard, if not next time you will be cleaning toilets and clearing rubbish bins, just like him?"

- When someone was being praised (or awarded), we wondered why. Instead of rejoicing with him, we wondered why he was getting the attention when we had (or could have) done better.

- When someone had done something not-too-right, were we too fast in accusing, reprimanding, without listening to any possible explanation? We may go “how can he...?!” , “how can she...?!” , “how can you...?!” Yes, we may go quite hard on that wrong-doer, forgetting we can err too. We seem to only allow ourselves to make mistakes.

ETC…

Haha... I shall not bore you too much... I shall then leave it to you to continue to imagine...

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