Just On the Surface

W : Hey, you might not believe it. That day, I actually found a cob-web in my car.

I gave a puzzled look, then I continued...
Me : Sure?
W : Really! It was at .. (I interjected dramatically while he was trying to describe how and where he found the cob-web in his car.)
Me : I mean, are you sure there is only one?

There were people around listening to our conversation. All of us burst into laughter. WS joined us in the laughing too, but he had a face with a tinge of redness.

W is a nice guy with a clean look, but he is quite "famous" for not maintaining the cleanliness of the interior of his car and his work desk is always .. erm.. kind of messy.

If you think I am "complaining" about him. Nope, I am not. On the contrary, I would like to praise him.

Okay, it's a fact that he may not have the habit of clearing the mess in his car. But once W knows that his car may be deployed by his close friend (F) to be one of the cars fetching the 姐妹团 on his wedding day, he arranged to get his car vacuumed on the night before. See! He his "breaking his habit" for his friend. Ha..

Besides, the fact that we know that his car is messy speaks volume. We know because he has been kind enough to give a lift to us, otherwise we wouldn't have known. Why not we just put his warm and kind nature in the foreground?

His desk is (nearly always) messy. But when you want anything from him, he knows exactly where the item is. At times, he may say he needs time to look for it, but you can be sure he will certainly get back to you. So what's the problem? He can still reliably perform (or even out-perform me). I don't think I want to "judge" him by other people's standard.

Just looking at his car's interior and his work desk, we may think _____________ .
Wait till you meet him in person and work with him, we will certainly think otherwise.

We may know the phrase “never judge a book by its cover” well enough. But how often we ourselves fall into the "trap"? Seeing things just on the surface... erm... perhaps it's a human flaw at large? Never mind, if we believe otherwise, just prove it through our thoughts and actions. :)

There is an interesting saying :
Just leave any judgment to either GOD or Mr. 阎罗王.

Ha.. We just need to do our part in helping others as much as possible.

这些夺目七彩缤纷的糖果，你认为就一定好吃吗？

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有一位圣者这么说：

人生不可以没有低潮。
没有低潮，你就不会去思索你应该思索的事情；
你就不会去感触很深的事情。

人就是需要那么一点激励，那么一点挫折才会成长；
人就是需要那么一点伤害，那么一点困境才会变得柔软些。
假如你经常遭受挫折，经常受伤，但你却一点都没有改变，那就太枉费你的遭遇了。也太浪费你的精神了。不要经历很多，遭遇很多，但却一副很有经验的姿态去面对别人，而是应该更柔软，更宽容的去体谅别人才是。

所以生命不能没有低潮，如果没有低潮，人就不能活到今天。
你会痛苦，你会感冒，你才懂得要保养身体；
你会心灵受伤害、你会自尊受攻击，你才懂得如何去体谅别人。你总是要别人有相同的感受、相同的处境时，你才会与别人连为一体。

当然不能把痛苦就视为它令人振奋的麻醉剂或兴奋剂，但人生必经的路一定要有痛苦作伴，有时你走过那一段了，你才能体会到什么是真正的快乐。