He was saying (through his intermittent sob), "没有她的日子怎么活？"
We were silence for a while.
Only when he seemed more stable, I said softly (almost only to myself), "那在没有她的日子之前你又怎么活？"
I am not undermining his sadness.
I also don't think it's appropriate to say to me "You don't seem to understand."
Certainly his heart is aching. But "怎么活？" shouldn't have crossed anyone's mind, I so believe.
I think he got the message.
If he needs someone to walk through this period of sadness with him, I am certainly willing to.
Life is just too previous. But again, if we choose to just live on, it will be just a life, not much difference from that led by... erm... _________ (in case it's to offending to see it in print, I am leaving the blank to your own imagination).
It takes time to recuperate a sore heart. But I hope he will recover real soon and come back even stronger.
Don't Just Live On
Experience It
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有一位圣者这么说：
有人的地方就可能会有是非，因为每个人生长的环境不同，父母的教育方式也不一样，做事方法当然也不相同。
咱们认为恰到好处、公正、合理的，咱们就选用；当然办事上遇到困难、问题，或者对人对事有所不满，但是你也不能怪人家，反而要感谢他。
为什么要感谢他？因为他帮助你成长。
5 comments:
hmm..there is nothing anyone can do to help him. he have to help himself. basically, ask him not to forget abt this relationship, but rather, remember it and make sure things goes better next time. its gg to b difficult but its juz something tt everyone needs to learn. keep all those good memories. no doubt those memories might sometimes juz hurt him. or mayb he might not even know how to face tt gal properly after tt, but then , one day he will know. one day he will realise, there might b another form of happiness waiting for him to discover. how to live on? well, we juz have to live on. cos the earth dun juz stop w/o ani one in this world. because life is a process tt cannot b repeated. thats y.. its impt to zhen xi. n if ever things tt r gone, dun keep looking at it. but then live even more happily. someday, there wil b soemone who appreaciate him n give him happiness tt he needs. tis i believe so. it takes time. yes, but then no matter how much time it need to heal, never ever take someone as a subsititute. then also. no matter how hurt u r, always rmb there r many pple ard u.. caring n concern abt u.. even if they face black black to u everytime...hmm.. sound like i m saying more to myself.. hmm.. i believe he can get over it soon. cos his happiness or rather the gal's happiness dun come frm him animore..no pt dwelling abt it .. instead of "wat can i do w/o her" ,he shd ask.. "how shd i live n love myself more wif one less person to care n concern abt me..." difficult, but he can make it. everyone can. haha.. i m being selfish n long winded eh?? :P
长气？哈哈。。 不会啦。
相信你也是有感而发。
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不过我这朋友，道理他不是不懂的。他或许还讲过类似的道理给别人听。
自己身入其境，感受自然有别。
他如今需要的想必是
- 一双聆听的耳朵
- 一双能牵动与安抚的手
- 一个能依靠的肩膀
等他稍微冷静后，我在“善言”几句。
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哈哈。。
谢谢分享。
或许像萤火虫所说的。很多时候，最令人感动的事，是在某个阶段，都有着那么一位或是很多位，一直在旁边陪着他们的朋友。要说道理，谁不会。要做到很难。时间是很好得疗伤济。他会明白，会很感动，因为，他身边有你，这么好的朋友。。
人生，不如意的事，十之八九。重要的事，即使再艰难，都要很努力的活着。如果人生，不再是那么的复杂，会不会我们就变得更加懂得珍惜对方？又仰或，因为有了失去的，我们才懂得更珍惜？
南子微尽绵力。
还望我这一套“关怀方式”不会让他有“窒息”的感觉。
Mm..
祝各位，
收拾不悦，
绽放笑颜，
好过年。：）
happy new yr to u too.. haha.. bascially, ani form of concern given by others when they r feeling down, will touched them. they will cry.. but then, they will feel that no doubt life is hard, but then, they knew there are still other pple ard .. to guide them... to accompany them thru tis "lonely" road... so no worries.. i believe he wont feel ani bit of fuss frm u.. :)
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