Thursday, November 30, 2006

A Fight…

A fight.. a violent physical one.. and erm.. between a mother and her teenage-daughter.

Not elaborating the details here.

I know they have not been in nice terms for quite long, but to see it escalating to such an extent.. mm.. just finds it rather heart-wrenching.

I still stand by the saying
天下的妈妈 ( or 爸爸 ) 都是一样的 .
Okay, some may protest. But what I’m saying here is at the “heart-level”, the obscure one. We may easily missed it, if many "events" occurring are not too much in our favour. But the fact remains, their love / care / concern are there.

When saying
天下的妈妈 ( or 爸爸 ) 都是一样的 , I also have to agree the ways they express their love / care / concern can be so varied. Sometimes (many times, for some), the ways are just not their children’s cup-of-tea. Mm..

But have we also think about the ways we express out love / care / concern (here, I’m assuming we have plenty) towards our parents? Have we wondered whether the ways we adopt are our parents’ cup-of-tea?


看来……
「爱」与「关怀」人人有,
「体谅」与「包容」就不是人人都会做得好.

Parents are still parents after all ....
We may not fully understand the difficulty of how our mother carried us to term throughout her pregnancy. However,

Do we still remember how worried our parents were when we felt sick (or accidentally injured ourselves) during our younger days?
Do we still remember even when the purse-string was very tight, there was still a sum allocated to buy milk powder (and maybe toys) for us?
Do we still remember how dependent we were when we were babies?
Do we still remember how our parents put up with the stench when they wipe our bottoms?
Do we still remember ... the many many things done out of unconditional love ...

Often the "clashes" started when we think we know how to perceive the world and especially when our perception differs from that of our parents'.

I am not lecturing here. I’m not a perfect example myself. I’m merely reflecting at the same time. I am only thinking, no matter what, still, as a family, we can only try to work things out. Not necessarily easy, I have to admit.

Maybe I’m just feeling quite lousy for I can’t do anything to help.
Even the father of the child can’t do anything much about it.. mm..




Some say we need to wait until we are cradling a baby of our own before we can fully understand what being a parent is like and then we will be able to appreciate our parents better.
Are we sure we want to wait until then?


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有一位圣者这么说:

让彷徨的人儿学会坚强
散播温暖不怕雨露风霜
展开笑容而迎向阳光
心中永远存希望
勇敢地不怕心伤
今後不沮丧
接受考验更成长
擦干眼泪迈开步更前往
莫在角落独自黯然神伤
美丽的人生有如阳光
照耀照彻照亮世界的角落
因缘聚会地你我与他
珍惜相聚时光永远不忘
笑一笑 烦恼忘掉
理想去寻找
某天涯海角某个时候某年某月等到理想实现了
回首当年道
心境开阔更逍遥

Tuesday, November 28, 2006

Little Egret – The Way I See It..

Little Egret is a type of migratory bird (a type of heron also, I supposed) we can see in Singapore.

This is not a lesson on Little Egret, of course. I am just fascinated to see a solo graceful Little Egret at close range happily feasting away. Its pure white feathers attracted much of my attention. Besides, another of its features made me laugh pretty hard.

Just take a look.


~ A Little Egret ~

You see what I see?

Haha.. Little Egret is much like a type of heron wearing yellow socks! :P

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记者访问一群企鹅平时爱做什么。
全部都说:吃饭睡觉打滚滚
只有最后一只企鹅说:吃饭睡觉

记者就问:为什么你没有说打滚滚呢
企鹅哭着说:我就是滚滚

Monday, November 27, 2006

Feeling Like A Tourist …

I may be living here (tiny-red-dot-on-the-world-map) for many years.. ha.. but many times I still feel like a tourist when moving around here.

Beside the northern part of the country, also everywhere I go, I need to first consult a map. If I don’t visit the same new place a few times in a relatively short span of time, most probably I would need to consult the map when I need to go there again. Luckily, I have not much problem in map-reading.

I am always quite amazed by my father (and many older uncles and aunties alike). They can’t read maps, yet they don’t seem to have a problem moving around in the car almost everywhere. Just tell them the address, okay not even the full address, just : Bedok, Blk 412, quite near MRT lah. Most probably they will say okay and they just set off and their senses will guide them there. Silly me may still enquiry what is the exact street name huh? Got any special features near by or not? Wait, I read the map first. Still I can make some wrong turns here and there. Haha..

Today is nice.

I feel like a tourist again.

First time visiting Mustafa Centre.
A 24-hour shopping place. Heard that it is very crowded over the weekend. Have been around for quite long. Must be visited by millions of genuine tourists already.

First time visiting Beach Road – Army Market.
Yes, not kidding you, I went through NS, heard about it but never once step foot in it, until today. Haha..

Oh, and traveling first-time on some new roads too.

Actually, the feeling is quite refreshing. Obviously, I have not been moving around frequent enough. So suah-gu lor. The worst situation was : My father had been sending me to NUS-hostel almost on a weekly basis during my uni-days for 4 straight years. Two years after graduation from NUS, I got a driving licence but I immediately realized I still couldn’t make my way there on my own. Now I know, of course. Okay lah, over the years, there has been slight improvement. =)

While feeling like a tourist is nice and refreshing, I do encounter varying degree of embarrassment. I have been approached by genuine tourists many times and I hardly can help them or give them any sensible directions. Today, I was approached again... erm … Luckily, some pals were by me for the “rescue”. Haha..


Give me some time. I think I will get my bearings right.

Better to be Developmental than Judgmental...

A 4-year-old kid, C drew something.

She rushed to me to show it to me while I was attending to something.
She asked, “You see. You see. Colourful hor?”

I looked at the drawing half-heartedly. It was messy. And erm.. Nothing seemed right. But I was only thinking of getting back to what I was doing and so I simply gave her a very casual thumb-up.

Upon seeing my approval, she rushed back to her group of friends proclaiming out loudly, as-a-matter-of-factly and cheerfully, “Nanzi gor gor says it is colourful and nice!”

I heard that of course. I still continue to attend to what I was doing, but I know my mind wondered away… and I was no longer concentrating on what I was doing…

I was thinking…

- What would happen if I were to tell her the truth?
Hey, you really cannot make it leh. You call this a star? Stars got green, blue and red colours one meh? You just look at the proportion of the stars and moon, you must be kidding right? Now, you look at the people you draw, why their hands are of different sizes? Do you know each hand got how many fingers or not? How can the hands be so much bigger than the face? … …

- Is there really nothing in her drawing that was right?
She really put in effort, her best effort. She tried to make things colourful because she must have just learnt (from comments by adults) to associate the adjective “colourful” to "very nice". The concept of proportion may not have set in yet, but certainly the awareness of the co-existence of moon and stars is a plus... ...

In short, we could always look at things in a more positive perspective. I believe my “affirmation” (albeit very casually done) gave her more courage to continue to experiment. I hope I have learned to be more sincere the next time, when attending to kids. And maybe give more constructive guidance, not just affirmative remarks.

What is the point of being so judgmental?
Oh well, there may be a need at certainly point in time, some argued.
Shouldn’t we be more developmental?
I believe we wouldn’t deny this (especially when we are at the receiving-end) . I just hope I wouldn’t forget this in practice. :o)

I also try to draw stars and moon.
You see, you see, colourful hor?
I think my style of drawing has been very much influenced by
C. Haha..
So are you going to "develop" me? :P

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By the way, I find the following "simple yet so powerful" clip pretty amazing.


"Kiwi!" is an animation about a Kiwi - a type of bird that cannot fly, who spends its whole life working towards achieving his dream … no matter how absurd and seemingly out of reach your dreams are, what's stopping you from achieving them? … read more

Saturday, November 25, 2006

听海 - Listening to the Sea

Some of us were just sitting by the rocks just beside the sea, listening to the sea. We didn’t talk a lot, we didn’t talk too loud either. There wasn’t any need for much conversation, maybe. And I think we liked it that way. The splashing of the waves on the rocks was pretty rhythmic and so we let the waves did the talking and we listened. We didn’t talk about what we had heard, but we will certainly hear something if we were attentive enough. It was calming, especially coupling with the soothing breeze.

I was with some *little pals and we were at the beach and the sun was good.

These *little pals were in the same class in 2005, but were spilt in 2006. So they were together as a class for just about 9 months or so. Today, they decided to get together as a class again and ha.. they got me to join them too. It somewhat amazed me that this class in 2005 is that close. Many commented that they would be happier if they were to be still in the same class in 2006. Aiyo.. Is the mistake mine? Mm..

Putting that feeling aside…
I think today we still had a pretty good time.

We were playing soccer and volleyball. I think I bent all the rules of the game(s), because in the first place I don’t know the rules (particularly soccer). :P I can’t help but to notice that some people were watching us. They must be finding it weird to see a lao uncle playing with these *little pals right? Haha.. I don’t care.

Confirmed! My stamina really cannot make it. I was in the verge of giving up in the midst of the game(s) while most of them seem to be still going strong. Malu sia, but I persevered on lor. I then took any chance to support anyone suggesting a break. Haha..

Most of the time, we were just sitting around chatting. Once in a while, we just get ourselves soaked and wet.

The good part of the morning and afternoon just went by like that.
Tired, we may be.
Relaxed and contented, we are.
Aiyo.. I think I never learn. I forgot all about sun-block again
.
Yes, I am red
again. Heh..
Now that I'm typing this entry, I can feel that my skin is cracking at the nano level and the effect is escalating.
I hope I would not have
another peeling session. Mm. Fat hope! :-)

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The following letter had been circulating in the email-circle for quite sometime. I read it a few times. Find it pretty interesting too. It makes me reflect more. I hope you can read "traditional" chinese text.

雲林縣草嶺國小李政勳的一封信

這是一所即將被合併的小學校,校長與心中小孩的對話,確實是蠻令人感慨的!

孩子:「校長,我們學校為什麼要被合併?」

校長:「孩子,學校合併後可以省很多錢呀!」

孩子:「校長,辦教育很貴嗎?」

校長:「不,孩子,辦教育比辦監獄、比請警察、比整治治安便宜。」

孩子:「校長,那為什麼要省教育的錢?」

校長:「孩子,你不懂,教育要計算成本的。」

孩子:「校長,你養小孩有算成本嗎?用多少錢可以買到孩童的笑臉?用多少錢可以買到生命裡的感動?用多少錢可以買到老師無悔的付出?用多少錢可以買到社區的希望?用多少錢可以買到校長的熱忱?用多少錢可以買到政府的責任?」

校長:「孩子,你不懂,教育是很貴的,政府沒錢了。」

孩子:「校長,政府沒錢為什麼還可以常常放煙火?為什麼還可以常常辦晚會?為什麼花大錢買武器?為什麼常常印刷一些沒人看的文宣?為什麼馬路挖了又挖?為什麼做一些沒用又破壞環境的攔砂壩?」

校長:「……」

校長:「孩子,校長告訴你,到大學校去,有多一點的同學,多一點人際互動,你的學習會更豐富。」

孩子:「校長,山上有各式各樣的蝴蝶、滿山遍野的野花、青翠高聳的大樹、驍勇善戰的鍬形蟲陪著我,和我一起玩,難道不能幫助我的學習嗎?」

校長:「孩子,美好的學習經驗必須和人互動,走入人群。」

孩子:「校長,司馬遷寫下史記時;梵谷畫出向日葵時;貝多芬譜出命運時;愛迪生讓電燈發亮時,有和人群在一起嗎?」

校長:「……」

孩子:「校長,要合成本,要多人一起讀書,那為什麼是我們要往山下走呢?」

校長:「孩子,因為下面的資源多ㄚ!」

孩子:「校長,醫院在山下、圖書館在山下、文化中心在山下、書局在山下,所有一切用稅金蓋給全民的東西為什麼都在山下,為什麼?」

校長:「孩子,因為我們人少啊!」

孩子:「校長,人少也是一種錯嗎?人少就應受不公平待遇嗎?我聽爸媽說,以前我們這裡也曾一班有很多人,九二一不是我們自願的,農產品不賺錢也不是我們自願的,我們的祖先選擇在山上更不是我們自願的,為什麼我們不能享有最基本的教育公平環境。」

校長:「孩子,你現在好好讀書,以後可以幫助家鄉啊!」

孩子:「校長,現在連學校都保不住,等我長大,家鄉還在嗎?」

希望這個孩子的父母不是您,但不幸的,這個校長就是我,我真的被這個孩子問到無話可說。

每個人心中,都有一個孩子。靜下心時,這個孩子會跟您說話,我被這個孩子問到熱淚盈眶,您呢?傾聽心中孩子的聲音吧!

雲林縣草嶺國小李政勳敬上

Thursday, November 23, 2006

They Got Me into a Pool & then into a Box

These *little pals, examination is over for them and they are playing like crazy. They are seriously playing and .. oh well, at the back of their mind, they know they are going to play hard for a while more (or until they are sick of playing or until their means run dry – whichever comes earlier). I would have done alike. =)

Interestingly, they asked me out to join them too. So on different days, with different groups..

- We dined and chatted for long… ha.. just about anything and everything.

- They got me into a pool. Haha.. Kidding, not what you are thinking, I supposed. They asked me along to join them in the game of pool. I learnt that some of them are plain solid, so pro in the game. I was like.. erm.. never mind, I was not that horrible lah. :P
It was enjoyable.
What was the last time, I played the game? I think it was years back with J at Bukit Timah area. It was pretty memorable too.

- They got me into a box. Erps.. I’m exaggerating again, not what you are thinking, I hoped. I wasn’t stuffed. Haha.. They asked me along to join them at K-Box. Wa.. Realised got so many tian-wang- and tian-hou-calibre singers. I am impressed by their vocal stamina, which I can't match. They just went on and on...

- Once, they also suggested to play LAN in town after dinner. I followed them into a shop (it was one amongst so many in the area). Kaoz.. Only to realise I was running short of time and I got to rush to another appointment. If not, that would be my first LAN experience.

There are a few more get-togethers in the schedule. ;)

They are happy now, I can see.
Happiness Always! :)

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有一位圣者这么说:

所听到的道理不是教训人,而是自我教训、自我回光返照;
所得到的启示,是来自内心的领会、所感应的灵感;
而将其流露在动静之中,潜移默化于人,
启开自我之心,才能指示自我之方向。
如此,便能打开他人之心,引导他人之迷津。

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Fellowship of NZ Conquest

The Fellowship of NZ Conquest got together.

Master W sets the goals and plans the paths.
Schemer F evaluates the resources, ensuring a smooth conquest.
Schemer-supporter D makes sure
F is doing a good job.
Conquerer S shall have our safety at heart.
Oh, certainly they need soldiers, let ME be one. Haha..

We pledge to have fun in a very relax manner.
We wanna conquer NZ,
but will gladly surrender ourselves to the beauty of nature...

Kaoz.. What am I talking? Haha..
I'm just glad things are taking shape and certainly becoming clearer.
The anticipation is .. erm.. such a wonderful feel by itself.

Really thankful for whatever that is happening (even) right now. :)


~ ~ Marlborough Sound ~ ~
Just a sample picture of a scenic NZ.

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

A Little Note on Epiphyllum

I woke up in the middle of the night, taking a sip of warm water, still thinking about the dreamy (yet vivid) scenes of meeting so and so, taking about this and that, meeting people I have been longing to meet, talking about things I have been longing to talk about… Alright, the dreamy scenes aside, I was looking out of the kitchen window at my neighbour’s gardening area and I was greeted warmly by some blossoming Epiphyllums.

They were mesmerizing. Under normal circumstances, I would have just grabbed my camera and snapped away. But the lighting wasn’t favourable and I just have to rely on what I can kope from the net :






If you are thinking : wait till morning lah!
Then you don’t know much about Epiphyllum. Haha..


Epiphyllum only blossom in the middle of the night. ( 静悄悄的开 )
It withers a few hours later when the sun rises. ( 也静悄悄的离开 )
Hence the phrase 昙花一现 to describe such observation.
Oh, yes, by the way, Epiphyllum = 昙花 .

My mother used to plan Epiphyllum too in the past. I could smell the blossom too and it smells good. Each developed bud only flowers once at night for a few hours and due to the slightly different timing in development, we could see different buds flowering (in the middle of the night) and withering (in the next morning) for consecutive days. I quite like the experiences.

Looking at them and appreciating them, they somehow set me thinking :

- We like beautiful things and like things to turn out beautiful. Even when things are beautiful or turns out to be beautiful, they are not going to last. Many times, they are much more short-lived than we expect or hope to be.

- Yes, please continue to like beautiful things and hope things to turn out beautiful. Cherish the moments (every moment), not just by words and thoughts, but actions too.

- What if things aren’t beautiful or are not becoming beautiful any tme sooner? Have we also learned to accept them bravely and strongly as reality, yet optimistic enough that there are still other beautiful things to look forward to?

- Many opportunities may come by (but) only once. Even our life-time now happens only once. If we are allow to write our own biography, how would we want to begin and how would we want to end?

Aiyo.. I am really long-winded lor. I should not ramble on and make this entry too long. Of course, my writing may stop, but let our thinking continues…


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An inspiration note left by an author :

我们都老得太快,却聪明得太迟。
人人都很愿意牺牲当下,去换取未知的等待 。
许多人认为必须等到某时或某事完成之后再采取行动:
明天我就开始运动;
明天我就会对他好一点;
下星期我们就找时间出去走走;
退休后,我们就要好好享受一下。
然而,生活总是一直变动,环境总是不可预知,
在现实生活中,各种突发状况总是层出不穷。

一个人永远也无法预料未来,所以不要延缓想过的生活,
不要吝于表达心中的话,因为生命只在一瞬间。
每个人的生命都有尽头,许多人经常在生命即将结束时,
才发现自己还有很多事没有做,有许多话来不及说,
这实在是人生最大的遗憾。
別让自己徒留「为时已晚」的空余恨。
逝者不可追,来者犹未卜,
最珍贵、最需要即时掌握的「当下」,
往往在这两者蹉跎间,转眼错失。

有许多事,在你还不懂得珍惜之前已成旧事;
有许多人,在你还来不及用心之前已成旧人。
遗憾的事一再发生,
但过后再追悔「早知道如何如何」是没有用的,
「那时候」 已经过去,你追念的人也已走过了你的生命。
不管你是否察觉,生命都一直在前进。
人生并未售来回票,失去的便永远不再。

将希望寄予「等到方便的时间才享受」,
我们不知失去了多少可能的幸福。
不要再等待有一天你「可以松口气」,
或是「麻烦都过去了」。
生命中大部分的美好事物都是短暂易逝的,
享受它们、品尝它们,善待你周围的每一个人,
別把时间浪费在等待所有难题的「完满结局」上。

找回迷失的生命。
死亡也许是免费的 ─ 但是,卻要付出生命的代价。
我們老得太快,却聪明得太迟。
我们要懂得把握當下,莫等待。

Sunday, November 19, 2006

Starting Late?

I have noticed 2 candidates appeared so much more mature compared to the rest of the candidates. A quick check reviewed that the slightly older one is aged 33. They are re-taking their A Level this year. They must be in their mid-career (one even turned up for the paper in long-sleeve shirt and business pants) , but still aspiring to go into university.

Somehow, there is this feeling of admiration towards them. Really admire their determination.

Maybe, there is no such thing as starting late.

Maybe...
- as long as we know we really want...
- as long as we have the support from our loved ones...
- as long as we have the means...
- as long as we are happy about it...

Why not? :)




Oh, in case, we think we are (too) late for something, just speed off and go a little faster. ;)
不怕慢、只怕站、更怕回头转。

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有一位圣者这么说:

道理不要做文字解、不要做字义解,
要从心灵方面去体会、去深入,
能够更渗透心灵层次、每一个层次,
道理才会越听越有味道、越嚼越有味道,
而这味道长留在口中,
不会因为东西吞下去了就没味道。

Saturday, November 18, 2006

@ Blue Wave

There were plenty of waiting.
While waiting, of course there was plenty of chatting too. Oh, what did I see? My homeland viewed from across the causeway. Ha.. And so I captured this



Oh no, this is just too much for a pair of eyes to see. Zooming in a little..
More to the right :



And I thought the ripples on the water surface were rather calming.

More to the left (out of that big picture actually) :



See those red-white pillars at Senoko? But actually it was the little pier (on the bottom-right) that drew most of my attention. Pier – A starting point of getting-away. What am I thinking? Mm..

More waiting, more chatting, more looking-around till sun-down :



And then dinner began.
All ended pretty punctually.
Thanks for all the planning.
We left with filled stomach.
Somehow I still felt a little empty. Mm..

Thursday, November 16, 2006

Getting Back



I believe this picture is yet again another creation by some kind of "photoshop-artist". Poor cat, what a difficult situation it is in. Happy fish, what other better chance of getting back? Silly me, what am I thinking?

It reminds me of something somehow :
- what goes around comes around (as if I know idiom...)
- the sentence passed for Saddam Hussein (as if I know current affair...)
- the execution of the villain
秦桧 (as if I know history...)
- the Newton's Third Law of Motion (as if I know physics...)
- the teaching of karma (as if I know religion...)

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有一位圣者这么说:

毕竟这个世界再怎么乱,都有真理的主宰,
但真理的表现用何显现呢?

因果便是一种显相的一种方式,
你种好的因,得好的果;
坏的因,当然也得怀的果。

世间如果演变得越来越恶劣,越恶性循环,
到最后上帝会求一个平衡,
就会让一个新的秩序在产生以前,
做个大毁灭,以求再度的平衡。

Wednesday, November 15, 2006

Honest In-Flight Announcements

I came across a light article :
In-flight announcements are not entirely truthful. What might an honest one sound like?

“GOOD morning, ladies and gentlemen. We are delighted to welcome you aboard Veritas Airways, the airline that tells it like it is. Please ensure that your seat belt is fastened, your seat back is upright and your tray-table is stowed. At Veritas Airways, your safety is our first priority. Actually, that is not quite true: if it were, our seats would be rear-facing, like those in military aircraft, since they are safer in the event of an emergency landing. But then hardly anybody would buy our tickets and we would go bust....


It's quite amusing, I thought.


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有一位圣者这么说:

人间是一个很奇妙的所在地,有形与无形共存,
看得见与看不见相互为用。
所以
一件事情的产生,其中必定牵连着看不见的成因;
一件事情的发展,其中也必定牵连着看不见的无数线索。

Monday, November 13, 2006

童灵、壮年身

I was tasked to drive my parents to a temple. We arrived, they entered, I followed. Almost immediately, I noticed the atmosphere around the centre of gathering ground was quite different.

A 20+ year old lady medium was obviously possessed by a child spirit. We can tell from the way she behaved. The lady medium then was behaving in a very childish manner (she was given – or pacified with – pacifier, milk bottle, lolly pop and marbles), but she didn’t forget that she was in a temple. She grabbed some joss sticks and was running and hopping from one altar to another in order to pay respects to all the deities in the relatively big temple. She was running and hopping around quite fast but with eyes almost fully closed, and there were a few assistants trailing her, just to make sure she didn’t go too wild and of course to clear way for her.


Just as I was observing her, more interesting stuff were happening almost at the same time at different parts of the gathering ground. I also don’t know where to concentrate specifically.

One by one, male and female of varying age group, wearing the same uniform of the temple, about 10 in total, became almost rather sickly. Many of those were observed to have severe vomiting spell, coughing pretty loudly. Assistants around them knew what was coming, they called for the big red chair (meant for medium) to be served to those people feeling sick. In a few more minutes, they were all possessed with the child spirit too.

It was rather chaotic, with so many child-like-behaving adults running and hopping around with eyes almost fully closed. But all the assistants remained very calm. They just trailed those possessed mediums along and served them with pacifier, milk bottle, lolly pop and marbles, wipe their perspiration, and so on..

Believe you me, some of those mediums literally brushed pass me during their running and hopping from so many directions. Of course I got to give way to them. I wouldn’t want to offend them unnecessarily.

If this is not interesting enough, erm… okay, then I shall add a bit more details.

One by one, after paying their respects to all the deities in the temple, gathered in the middle of the gathering grounds. Just imagine, about 10 childish-behaving, eye-almost-fully-closed adults gathered and played.

They played marbles. Or rather they were given marbles to play. They rolled marbles to each other and later some even used marbles to knock at each others’ head. That was naughty! Of course, the assistants told them not to and they seemed to obey. They were all either sucking one pacifier, two pacifiers at the same time, lolly pop or milk bottle. They were also snatching milk bottles from one another as there weren’t enough milk bottles to go around.

Some funnier scenes :

- One was seen to use some marbles to knock the head of another. The other tried to retaliate by attempting to open the milk bottle to spray back. It was stopped in time, if not the lady medium and the assistants around might be drenched in milk. Haha..

- One was contented of what he had grabbed, ran to hide behind a big red chair (meant for medium), happily sucking the lolly pop and held tight to a milk bottle. He was also peeping at the playgroup from behind the chair. I was looking at this particular one more closely as he was just about 2 metres away from me. He is so young, so fair, around my height and I don’t think he passed 20 year-old. He reminds me of someone. Anyway, before he got possessed, I already noticed him. He walked past me like a normal guy but with red-shot eyes. As I said, I noticed him because he reminds me of someone, someone quite close some years back. And then minutes later, I saw him in such a childish state. I really felt like laughing.

- One grabbed a newly-filled milk bottle and quickly sucked from it. He was spitting out almost immediately, letting his tongue out to cool off. The milk was newly prepared and was too hot for him obviously. He was complaining, “wa.. so hot ah”, but was easily pacified with more pacifiers and lolly pops. Haha..

Many aunties and uncles were around. To them, those mediums were possessed by that well-known child spirit. They believe the child spirit will bring them luck and they were happy to receive the sweets shared directly by those mediums.

Slightly later, one of the mediums was guided to be seated on a red chair beside a relatively big statue of
大伯公, but the other mediums remained to play amongst themselves. The uncles and aunties were asked to queue up in a line. They were then guided to approach the (lady) medium and receive a token of blessing from her. It was mentioned so many times, that the token of blessing was for prosperity (财) . In return, the believers were highly encouraged to donate any among of money into a donation tank placed just beside that (lady) medium and right in front of the statue of 大伯公. The queue was so long. I was not in the queue. I was merely observing. The system is so transparent. Or rather the money tank was transparent. I could see the money-level raising by the seconds. Heh..

I also paid my respect in a simple, dignify manner to all the deities in the temple. Before I left, I stole another glance at the familiar-looking-still-possessed medium. I left. We left.

I am now merely recording what I saw. I don’t think I want to write down how I interpret all these, for the entry is getting a little too long. Good Night. =)

Sunday, November 12, 2006

How Was My Candle Light Dinner?

Are you anticipating something juicy or sensational to read on? Hahaha
If yes, oh well... you may be a little bit "disappointed".

I am just back after attending a Wedding dinner. The seating arrangement was so special (because I requested for vegetarian meal) that I had to be seated around a small table meant for 4 while all the others were seated around a big table meant for 10.
Mm..

Besides, the region where my table was, was really bright lit. The intensity of the light over the table did not change even while all the others had dimmed down significantly while preparing for the bride and groom to make their grand entry into the dining ballroom. It was more like spot light shining on the people seated around my table. To make it more
interesting, only two people (me and a lady) out of the intended 4, turned up. Okay, so it was more like spot light shining on me and the lady during the grand entry of the bride and groom and in fact throughout the entire night. Hahaha.. Awkward right??!!

Her first comment was
“你会不会觉得很怪?”
Of course lah! Argg...

I am not complaining about the bride or groom. I understand their constraints. I was there primarily to congratulate them. I was not there to be served like a king or prince. However, I still just feel really awkward and a little funny. But I was willing to adapt accordingly. You know, from the corner of my eyes, I could see many of my colleagues (comfortably spread and seated at about 4 big tables) were glancing over occasionally. Of course, I could have just pick up my chair and insert myself amongst them, and be the 11th person of the table there.
But… I chose not to do it.

Hey, it was not that I was already so attracted to the charm of the lady at my table. I learnt that she is a really close friend of the bride (she met the bride years well before the groom did) and she only knows the bride and groom and no one else. So if I were to pick up my chair to join my colleagues, she will be left entirely alone.
Mm.. I can’t be that cruel right?

I decided to
endure the awkwardness and stay put. I even gathered enough courage to keep her “entertained” throughout the dinner. While “entertaining” her, I think I was also “entertaining” some of my colleagues around the tables nearby. They must have thought I know that lady so well. Haha..

During the photo taking session, when I have to join some of my colleagues..
One asked (softly),
“你的烛光晚餐怎么样?”
Another one added (not so softly), “是咯,我们会不会太亮了?”
ErmHaha.. I think throughout the years in my line of work, my skin really become very thick liao lor.

D, is that your way to make your wedding dinner memorable for me? Haha..
Anyway, the newly-wed couple performed a dance along the aisle of the hall. That was pretty cool and memorable!

Congratulation
D & J !! :)

Saturday, November 11, 2006

Candles..

I was watching one candle burning away serenely just now…

蜡烛
它曾经是黑夜里光线的主要来源。
科技的进展却使它渐渐让人遗忘。
如今蜡烛多半只是用在点缀、装饰、宗教等用途。


It was such an essential item. Oh well, some may still find it essential as they need to use the little tea-light-candle to heat up and vapourise the scented liquid in order to indulge in the essence of essential oils.

Alright, not complaining, just that we are really moving with time. Along which, changes are inevitable, but some fundamentals stay fast.




Candle - a simple invention. What other imprints come to your mind? Ha.. Very predictable …

燃烧自己,照亮别人。
春蚕到死丝方尽,蜡炬成灰泪始干。


It is therefore somewhat not too surprising to me that lighting a candle often symbolizes hope, tranquility, ...

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有一位圣者这么说:

如是因 、如是缘、如是果、如是报,
乃天地间之定律,自古以来未曾变异;
亦是宇宙万物更适的规则,时代兴衰的法则,人事祸福之因由。

虽然有的春天播种,秋天收成;
有的今年播种,明年收成;
有的现在播种,好几十年后才有收成;
有的今生播种,来生才有收成;
但总不离先有播种,后才有所收成。
这是千古不移的天经地义。

纵使有的人喜欢播种,有的人喜欢收成,
但是播种与收成,其间必有因果之平衡,
且不可磨灭的关系存在。
细如芝麻小事,巨如天灾浩劫,
都在如是因,如是果的定律中如是演化。

Thursday, November 09, 2006

Round 2 – Fight!

Round 2 just ended. I would believe they had done pretty well.

These *little pals must be already quite exhausted by now. Just slightly more than a week to go, so just press on!

They have done what can be done (within their capacity), now just relax a little, let the examiners decide.

Victory is not mine to claim, but is what I can sincerely hope for them.

Knowing them (for them, knowing me) for 2 years and this is a typical way it all “ends”, in the midst of examination pressure and stress. But I am so sure when we meet again, it will be all smiles.


学习旅途乃是一生的路。
能与他们在这条路上同步两年时光也是一种缘分。
回味起来,欢乐还真不少。
对大家而言,这条路还长得很。
咱继续加油努力吧。=)

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Now, I should have more time to catch up on 《宫》 andPrison Breakand of course, of course, reading up on NZ ... :)

《宫》 - Funny, yet romantic in some sense. We see how a cold prince melted under the charm of his princess. We see how 2 people can love each other so much, yet at the same time hurting each other as much. We see how “loving” is one thing, “expressing it right” is another… blah blah blah




Prison Break- About saving brother. It has an amazingly rich and captivating plot. Many episodes simply left me in awe for all the twists and turns.



Wednesday, November 08, 2006

“猫是有灵性的”

I heard a series of strange cat calls. My affinity to cat (in general) isn’t that strong, yet I think I can decipher those calls were distinctively sad ones.

Y explained that about one-and-a-half month ago, the female-mother cat gave birth to 4 kittens. At present, only two are left by her side as the other two (prettier ones) were recently being adopted (without the female-mother cat’s permission). So, to that female-mother cat, two of its dear kittens went missing suddenly. For days, I learnt, the cat was observing to be moving around making that kind of sad call, searching for her missing kittens.

Y continued,
“ 猫是有灵性的。我忘记跟它解释它的两只小猫是被人领养了。它现在一定很伤心。”

Having said that, she reached out her hand to stroke the mother cat’s head and at the same time talking to the cat, “你放心,你的两只小猫是被人领养了,它们现在都过得很好。”

The cat just sat by very still and calmly, letting her continue to stroke its head. It miao-ed a few times, not that kind of sad ones now, but those more affectionate ones. Amazing.

爱猫之人儿都说猫儿有灵性。
爱狗的人儿也说狗儿有灵性。
我同意。
但是猪、羊、牛、马、鸡、鸭、鱼等动物呢?

其实每一种动物都有其“个性”。
只要是其“个性”恰好是很和我们的意,我们自然就会觉得它特别灵。

范围在扩大一点:
只要是有生命的能量,能量的背后就是有灵性。







是的,它们也都有灵性。

Tuesday, November 07, 2006

Round 1

I admit there is just this tinge of nervousness welling up before and after the paper. Oh! Certainly these *little pals are working very hard but I always feel that a little more could have been done on my side to make their learning more effective and more meaningful. Oh well...

Looking at the questions just before the paper commences, I felt a little bit of calm. I so believe the *little pals should be able to do most (if not all) of the questions. They were pretty direct and many (not all) of those questions they were have already seen before.

Indeed,
A few was thinking of the possibility of getting perfect score...
Many felt that the paper was much more manageable...
Plenty have their self-esteem boosted...

However,
"carelessness" made some uneasy...
"black-out-stun" was felt by some ...
"stroke-of-luck" missed a few ...

Come on people, whatever the situation, let's get it (all) back in Round 2.

Round 1 is just over..
Round 2 is just round the corner..
Hope they will be doing fine (for all the other "rounds" too) !

Monday, November 06, 2006

“You are the Pain in the Neck”

“You are the Pain in the Neck!”
Anyone ever said that to you?.. Erm.. I hope not.

But, some days back, I heard that a 5 year-old kiddo actually said this over the phone to his dear mother. It was said under the context when his mother asked him whether he had any problem with his homework. The mother was assessing the need to rush home to assist this kid in his homework in between her scheduled appointments on the day.

Maybe that was just a “careless” utterance, but the hurt is done. The kind of expression on the face of the mother, I can still remember quite vividly. If that kid felt the pain in the neck, the mother must have felt the pain 100 times more in the heart.

Kids nowadays are really expressive. It is good in many senses. However when “unguarded”, I wonder where it will all lead to. I’m not suggesting the mother has not done her part in guiding the kid. Perhaps, there are many other means influencing such development. You can name some, I so believe.

I just feel like recording this simple account as it strikes me hard again that...
What we say or do may cause hurt to someone. Let's be mindful of our utterances and actions.
But what we say or do can also “heal” someone. Let's also be mindful and be generous to sing praises for others, and be a strong supporting pillars for those in need, etc.
The decision is often ours. :o)

Saturday, November 04, 2006

Bamboo – A Very Brief Account

I’m often very amazed by many things. Maybe this time round, I shall briefly talk about bamboo ().

Have we ever walked into a bamboo forest? I know it’s really unimaginable in the local context. But I would still believe we have caught a glimpse of it some where, especially on panda-related documentaries (panda loves to eat bamboo leaves mah), or Guan-Yin-related serials or movies (Guan-Yin stays at
紫竹林 mah). Right?

Actually if we are observant enough we can still see some small clusters of bamboo trees growing along our local forest trails or kampong sites. Not that impressive, but we can always use our brain power to “extrapolate” and imagine how a huge bamboo forest my look like.

Just looking at bamboo trees can give me quite a soothing effect.

The Leaves..
The elongated shape of the leaves with “veins” running along almost in parallel of the edge is rather appealing to me. No no no, I’m not talking about the leaves as individual leaf, I like it best to see many of the leaves overlapping each other in the most natural form. They “cover” each other, with the longer ones somewhat “shyly” protruding from underside the ones on top.




The Trunk..
We know how hard or strong it can be. But does it occur to you that the trunk is empty within? In many Chinese writings, this is described as the nature way of teaching us to be
【虚心】 , the need to be humble so as to be strong(er). Think about it.



It may also be noted that the entire trunk of the bamboo tree is naturally divided into many sections. The parts dividing the trunk into different sections are particularly hard. We call that
【竹节】. This is perhaps again the nature way of teaching us
作为一个人一定要有【节】。
节:节操、节义。
有【节】才能象竹一般生得壮、长得高、看得远。

No wonder in many Chinese paintings, we can see bamboo drawn either as the main subject or as a distinctive background. It is just so representative – representing the many good values.

There is another aspect of bamboo trees which can be easily missed. We may have seen bamboo trees before, but have we “heard” them?

When the wind blows, the leaves being hard enough and close enough, will brush by each other to produce a neat natural whistling tune. Pretty lovely. And when the wind stops, the tune will die down immediately too. There is this popular saying :

风来疏竹,风过而竹不留声;
雁度寒潭,雁去而潭不留影。
故君子事来而心始现,事去而心随空。--《菜根谭》

The last line summaries really well, I think. Just how much have we learnt (just by observing bamboo)? Plenty! :)

Friday, November 03, 2006

原来…

原来那种感觉叫「思念」…

原来说「再见」是真的很想再见一面…

原来「人多好办事」也并非常常如此…

原来再看到熟悉的笑容会是那么甜美…

原来她也会自觉不知所措…

原来「第二个机会」不一定人人都会有…

原来简单的一声「谢谢」也可以如此悦耳…

原来为对方好还得要用对方可以接受的关怀方式…

原来许多人都很向往投入大自然的怀抱…

原来我们所谓的「原来」的背后还可能有另一个“原来”…



Leisurely Observing, Thinking, Contemplating...
Actually...
No Wonder...
And So This is...


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有一位作者这么说:

愛一個人
要了解,也要開解;
要道歉,也要道謝;
要認錯,也要改錯;
要體貼,也要體諒;
是接受,而不是氣受;
是寬容,而不是縱容;
是支持,而不是支配;
是慰問,而不是質問;
是傾訴,而不是控訴;
是難忘,而不是遺忘。