S* Education (or Rather The Lack of It...)

S* = Sex.
Unimaginably, I am going to talk (a little) about sex education (or rather the lack of it... ).
If you are uncomfortable, in any way, please need not read on.

Typical local drama serial scenes (about loving couple) :
A pair of loving couple was preparing to get married. Soon after, we witnessed the entire wedding procession and the bliss beaming from the couple cannot be missed. We could be pretty touched at the same time. At the end of the wedding dinner, the scene will still be focused on the couple. But now, they will be alone, looking lovingly at each other, went under the blanket, lights off and the rest was left to our imagination. (I am not asking for more graphic details of what actually happened under the blanket.)
Then hor.. Not too long later, the newly-wed bride may announce that she was pregnant. Wow! And everyone was rejoicing.

Tell you a true story happened not too long ago (shared by a fellow colleague, today) :
Some teenagers (secondary 4 students) went out together for some kind of gathering. It was an over-night event. Okay, let's imagine that it was the usual over-night BBQ at a rented chalet (big enough with some rooms). There was a particular pair of lovers, and they were preparing to rest after a tiring day. By some (perhaps deliberate) arrangement, they shared a bed and literally went under a blanket together.

Weeks later, the girl broke a news to the boy that she was pregnant. The boy was shocked. They were (are) still schooling. The girl asked for money from him for various reasons (which are not the focus in this story), on numerous occasions, apparently related to the pregnancy. The boy felt responsible for it and gave in. But the stress factor was too high for him and it certainly reviewed all over his facial expression. The guy was called in by his teacher and through some persuasion, he confided in his teacher.

That guy was truthful enough to provide the details, including what actually went on under the blanket on that night. *Ahem. A stark revelation : the guy said they were talking, followed by a little cuddling and later... (ready?)... just felt asleep la. Nothing of that sort, okay.

Ha.. so all the while this guy believed that going under a blanket was all it took, for pregnancy to occur. Mm.. actually, this was in accordance of what he saw in all local TV drama serials. So pure ah?
Obviously he was played on by the naughty girl, and this guy didn't know what sex is. I am talking about a fully physically-matured guy here who didn't know what sex is. Mm..

Should I be very surprised?
Oh well.. I have heard of even more interesting tales of married couples who were trying so hard to conceive but failed. They finally approached doctors and in most cases, low sperm count, not-so-good sperm/egg quality, etc. were the main 'culprits'. In certain cases, the couple was perfectly healthy in all ways, but was just performing sex in the wrong way!! "Wrong" as in not the way, if you want pregnancy to occur. Erm.. I shall spare you the details.
I am thinking. In this time, will someone (adult, especially) admit openly, he or she doesn't know anything about sex? Look around, everyone acts as if they know something/everything about it.

I know there are people (in various agencies/organizations) who are trying (so hard) to come out with effective programmes to teach our youth, about sex. But, at the rate it is going, I'm a little doubtful. But still their effort may be commendable. We must understand they are working with many binding "red tapes".

Even in the best of efforts, it may still fail.
There was a team who tried to teach a small village about contraception. They went down to demonstrate how to put on a condom properly. They really demonstrate, in the most decent sense. They used the pole, which was part of a villager's fencing around his house, to demonstrate how to put on a condom. Innovative, we may think.

However, the pregnancy rate did not go down. It was maintained more or less the same. A check was done. Apparently, the villagers really put in their best effort.
Proof : Almost all (S/M/L) poles on the fencing around their houses wore a condom. Some still got "double or triple protection", okay. :P

Maybe not many people are comfortable to talk about sex. And when they do, there are certain social pressures to guide them not to be too explicit. Hence, almost everything are done in analogy or as subtle as possible. Aiyo.